What Makes Him Feel Happy and Comfortable Around You?

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With all of the negative stories in the news, sometimes it’s nice to find tears running down your face for a different reason: a profound appreciation for the kind things people do for each other. Some of the people in these stories give to strangers, while others perform simple, caring acts for those they love. Many of these stories have inspired millions of people, and I hope they inspire you to do an act of kindness of your own. The most inspiring are those things that people do to those around them, imagine having fun just the two of you.

We all have our preferences about whether we are the pursuer or the pursued, and really, many women seem to prefer being chased. As long as your partner is fine with this dynamic, it’s no one’s business but your own. Deep down, though, he might really wish that once in a while you were the hunter. Of course, there are plenty of relationships where the wife takes on this role regularly but, if you traditionally haven’t, it could be a nice surprise. Come up with a fun way of initiating some time. He’ll be pleasantly surprised you’re taking the reins.

When it comes to your own appearance, do what makes you feel happy and comfortable. If that means applying makeup every morning, then so be it! We all deserve to feel good in our own skin. That being said, why not skip the beauty regimen once in a while? Despite what the magazines try to sell us, studies are showing that men actually prefer when women wear less makeup. Who would have thought? On your next date night, try a more natural look, and see if he comments on the change. As long as you feel beautiful, and you’re up to it, why not experiment a little.

We spend much of our day running at full speed. It’s not surprising, therefore, that we might roll our eyes at the idea of adding more things to our to-do list, especially if it involves trying harder to please our mate. Are they doing enough for me, you might ask? While it’s important to have your own needs met, it’s also vital to see your marriage as a partnership.  First things first, this is no “how to please your man” kind of list. It’s a discussion about how to be your best self while considering your partner’s needs. After all, teamwork makes the dream work, right? You don’t have to wait for your husband to start doing the right things, be the one who sparks the change. So, in that spirit, here are some things that your husband wishes you’d do more often.

Life can be so hectic nowadays it’s easy to lose sight of what’s important. We are often juggling multiple obligations at once and, in order to keep up, we can become fixated on maintaining certain schedules and routines but what if, once in a while, we got spontaneous and cancelled plans in order to do something outlandish or fun. Your husband would probably love it if you just let loose and decided to go with the flow for a change. It might be tough, at first, to buck with tradition but, ultimately, you will probably end up feeling refreshed and rejuvenated. Ditch the office during lunch time and meet up with your hubby instead. You will both enjoy that extra time together in the middle of the day.

If you’ve had to repeat something multiple times or just happen to be having a bad day, it’s really tempting to just harp on some problem or mistake your husband has made. You might even be venting about a friend, family member, or coworker who has upset you in some way. It’s definitely important that you continue to communicate with your husband and you deserve to see him as a confidante but once you have made your point, he might appreciate if you reel it in a little. Your blood might still be boiling but you will know when the opportunity arises, that this time, it’s best to drop it.

Every day, women are bombarded with messages about how we should, and should not, express our sexuality. As a result, so many of us become shy or uncomfortable with our bodies and it can have an impact on our intimate relationships. Research has shown that women experience orgasm during intercourse far less frequently than men which, of course, is entirely unfair. Chances are that your husband wants you to enjoy sex as much as he does and would be willing to work on it, but he might need some gentle guidance. Pick up some books, watch some videos, and grab a mirror so that you can explore your own body. Once you feel comfortable, invite your husband to play along.

It’s pretty frustrating to try to have a conversation with someone when their face is buried into the screen of their phone. We’ve all been annoyed by this, yet, we still do it to others on a regular basis. Your husband probably wishes you’d toss that thing aside more often and focus on him, especially if you are easily upset by things you see on social media and, therefore, need to vent, or the glare keeps him up at night. First thing in the morning and right before bed, try to have a “phone-free” chat with your husband so that you begin and end each day feeling connected.

Most of us have to deal with the memories of the exes in our spouse’s past. Hopefully, we are secure enough in our relationship that it doesn’t create any unnecessary issues. Still, it’s pretty normal to feel insecure sometimes, especially when a story about an ex seems particularly memorable or nostalgic. In those moments, a little reassurance can go a long way, even if your husband is brushing it off.

We all like things done a certain way and, really, some things have to be done a certain way. Sometimes, it’s easier to just handle things ourselves, especially if our husbands have failed at completing tasks in the past. The thing is, though, that some things aren’t really that big of a deal. If your husband gets the kids dressed and their clothes don’t match, does it really matter especially if you’re not leaving the house? Did he set the table using the ivory dishes when you wanted to use the white ones? When it comes to things like that, Learn pick your battles.

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