Is Elopement Replacing the Traditional Marriages Among the Millennials?

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Finally the month that most have waiting for a long period of time is here, anyway I want to touch something on relationships, December is when most couples finalise it all by a tying the knot. However not every little girl grows up clutching a binder packed with doilies and details of her destination wedding. Even if she does, often the numerous, inherent stressors of planning such a shindig bubble up and make her back away from the social media. It’s sad enough to note that millennials for sure have a knack for ruining institutions previous generations adored and it seems that includes traditional weddings.

It’s not that millennials reject the concept of marriage as a whole, no but many are opting for an alternative by choosing small, sometimes surprise ceremonies over expansive, expensive weddings. Thus inspiring an all-inclusive elopement. Eloping Is Fun, a Nairobi, based full elopement service, has been in business for about four years, Business has kind of doubled every year. It might be hitting a plateau. And it’s mostly millennials hitting her up. From what I know about millennials, things are tough financially, she says. That’s one of the big reasons, in general. People just want to start their life. They don’t feel like they have to follow any sort of traditional norms anymore.

It just kind of made me sick to think like, My God, we’re going to be spending this much money on this wedding for, like, eight hours’ worth of fun. A small trip could be a good change of plans. The couple can decide to invite 10 of their closest friends and rent a cabin for a group vacation this fall. Oh, and also get married in the middle of it. It doesn’t matter where anymore what matter is how long will it last after that. We are living in a fast world where everything is just a step away thus saving that moment for the near future is sometimes the best thing one can do.

The average wedding cost keep inflating too. Millennials are getting hitched later in life than previous generations, and the number of people in one person’s regular orbit at age 19 is going to be dramatically smaller than it will be by age 29. Take into account that, plus the ever-expanding universe of social media, and most millennials’ social networks may be considered downright sprawling.

The invitation list is one of the most dreaded and anxiety-producing aspects of wedding planning. Now you have to consider friends from different walks of life, such as your high school and college friends, those you met while studying abroad, at your first job, your current coworker buddies, the running club you go to on the weekends, and the fantastic couple you met on vacation. Yet there’s only so much money and so many table seating arrangements that you can afford. The potential for party faux pas and social pressure to edit and cut down your list could result in the end of a friendship, or family drama. Elopements, just by definition, shave down any guest list considerably.

While the past generations, heading to the courthouse to get their “I Do” which was often synonymous with an unexpected pregnancy. Though surely that still inspires some elopements, the country’s uncertain health insurance landscape has become an even more pressing concern, motivating many to tie the knot just to make sure they’re covered in an emergency and quickly. Leaving a job and the health insurance it provided helped push many and their now husbands, to head to the courthouse for a speedy wedding. They told only immediate family about their plan and only the day before it happened, but that was less a desire to be sneaky and more because that’s how it got scheduled.

Though obviously many of the couple’s wedding are expedited for bureaucratic reasons, Mary say they probably would have eloped anyway. I’ve never loved being the center of attention, she says. Some girls dream about their wedding day forever, right? I’ve never really been one of them. The more I think about it, the less I think a traditional wedding would have suited me. It’s just not really my thing.

By one’s late twenties, a person is already quite the wedding-guest veteran. I’m 29 and by December I will have attended seven weddings this year alone. Over time and with repeated exposure, it’s easy to feel exhausted with weddings in general. When she and her girlfriend got engaged last August, She started by planning an ornate wedding, only to reroute to a much smaller courthouse solution in March. They sent an email invite to immediate family only. Then we just went and ate burgers after, and it was the best day ever, It was the most stressfree day

It’s an emotional benefit of having a small ceremony is that it’s easier to be mentally present and soak it all in, since often times at highly attended weddings, the bride and groom are rushing around to greet all of the guests, Burns points out. It’s important for eloping couples not to diminish the event because it’s small and to share and process it with family and friends. I also urge eloping couples to still have a photographer or videographer to capture the memorable moments, so that you can share it with others and also watch and relive the special day over years to come.

I want to show people that it’s not cheap, it’s not cheesy, but rather you can do something that’s fun, beautiful, within budget, with your closest friends or your family, and there’s nothing to be afraid of—it’s fine. In order to get married, you don’t have to have a big wedding. It doesn’t have to be some big to-do. You don’t need a hashtag.

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