Where is Love? It’s everywhere!
I have always believed that reading extensively can expand the mind, touch the heart, and enrich the soul. It can also cause your imagination to do some funny things at times. These was evident in the Kenyan education systems (8-4-4) that was that has been engaged for over three decades now, reading was all it talked about I really pity those who think that the system was somehow to make you independent, with all fairness let’s not head that direction. I can remember several years ago reading a book where the hero went through several tragedies and at one point in the midst of his pain and torment he cried out: “Where is Love?” At that moment in my imagination I leapt into the story, grabbed him by the arm and told him: “It’s everywhere! It’s everywhere!”
A question that has hit your brain a couple of times in the last 6 months, the confusion that hits your brain the more you try to figure out what love is, a scientific study shows that love and sexual desire activate different areas of the striatum. Whereas the physiologist says that one leads to another or influences the other, for me that’s too deep to even start thinking about. The area activated by sexual desire is usually activated by things that are inherently pleasurable, such as sex or food. The area activated by love is involved in the process of conditioning by which things paired with reward or pleasure is given inherent value. That is, as feelings of sexual desire develop into love, they are processed in a different place in the striatum.
First lets define love, can we really have definite definition? For me the bear meaning tells me that love is a consciousness which involves feelings, or more generally what science calls qualia, the experience of qualities such as pain, pleasure, beauty, somewhat surprisingly, this desire attractions conditions your heart to develop a confront zone towards the subject and latter you realize that you have a profound like towards it, an area of the striatum is also the part of the brain that associated with drug addiction. J. G. Pfaus a professor at the Center for Studies in Behavioral Neurobiology at Concordia University explains there is good reason for this. “Love is actually a habit that is formed from any form of desire of which the desire is rewarded. It works the same way in the brain as when people become addicted to drugs.
Love is everywhere. You just have to open your heart to see it. For me it is there every time I watch the dawn break upon a new day. It is there every time a brisk winter breeze blows across my face. It is there in the first flower of Spring. It is there in the green grass of Summer. It is there in the last leaf of Fall. It is there every time my cold shower gives me a hug making me release that my nerves are still alive. It is there every time someone laughs at one of my dumb jokes. It is there in the adoring eyes of my old beagle and my new puppy. It is there in the purring cat that naps on my chest. It is there in the smile of the clerk behind the counter. It is there in the old man who opens a door for me. It is there when I read a letter from a friend. It is there every time I do anything. It is there in everything I write and every act of kindness I do.
When life gives you a hundred reasons to break down and cry, show life that you have a thousand reasons to smile and laugh. Nothing is quite as beautiful as someone who has survived losing everything and still has a tender heart. Don’t close the book when bad things happen in your life, just turn the page and begin a new chapter. At the end of the day, all you need is hope and strength. Hope that it will get better, and strength to hold on until it does and love, it fills us as well every time we open our hearts and souls to it. Don’t shut out love then. Don’t live your life in pain. Open your heart instead. Share your love instead. You will find that the more love you give away, the more love you will have. You will find that the more love you share, the more love will surround you. You will find that when you live your life in love, you will find love everywhere.