New Year’s Resolutions Deemed Meaningless by Team Mafisi, What About You?
Here it is, 2017 just around the corner, a fresh new start. ‘Things will be different next year’ a statement that has been repeated a billion times on the face of the earth, and not just different, but better. Way better! So much better, next year at this time we won’t even have to do a New Year’s resolution. Everything we resolved to do will have come true.
Let me say once again that New Year’s Resolutions are a fun way to pass the time but are meaningless in the real world. Not wishing to burst your feel-good bubble on the very first day of the New Year, just thinking out loud, in case you woke up this morning actually believing that all it takes to do some serious life-changing before the next year is to sincerely resolve to do it on New Year’s Day.
Among us some people believe a resolution is not legit unless you say it out loud to someone who might actually remember and care later on. I’ve done it myself a thousand times if I have lived that long, but in the days when I couldn’t have started the year without a list of resolutions. It was a good luck gesture I almost really believed in. Sort of like not stepping on a crack to avoid breaking your mother’s back.But over time I realized the surest way to disappoint myself in the worst way possible was to promise myself, most sincerely, because no other way would I do, that I wouldn’t be a complete failure again. This year I would finally do what I’ve been meaning to do, and this time I mean it.
Sometimes I would even make a list–actually write things down. Then, thankfully, I would lose the list, and any remnants of any long ago resolution would drift away, never to be heard from again until next New Year’s Eve, when those long-ago resolutions would come back and hit me like a ton of bricks. I promised! I resolved! I said them out loud! I didn’t do any of them! Except to get out and have fun to avoid lonely weekends. I did manage to do that. But who couldn’t when you start to earn and life looks nice with the neighbours girl willingly accompanying you to white parties around town, at time miles from your known hood, way out where fun has no end.
So this year you could follow my lead, save yourself a lot of headaches, and just bypass that tradition. The world won’t come to an end. The year will start, the days will go by, one by one, and nobody will notice that you didn’t make a resolution.You too can be free. Just say no. No resolutions! If you think you can’t do it, trust me, I’ve been there. I know now.I didn’t know that when I was young. I went along, sheep-like, because everyone else did. I honestly thought I was the only one who didn’t keep her resolutions. I know better now. It’s the most freeing thing in the world to know my promises to myself are meaningless and therefore totally unnecessary.
It’s because I have written them a thousand times and ended up writing the same list over and over again every New Year’s Eve that’s passed but only altered the list slightly. Next year I’m hoping to be better at writing an article on the first day of the year, not a list that will end-up in the garbage sometimes in June. Hoping, but not promising, and so I hope that you will keep reading.
So Happy New Year! Health! Prosperity! Love! Joy!