5 Obvious Words That Can Break any Relationship.
The good news is that some couples don’t argue. They are wrapped in a loving embrace of understanding and constant affection for each other at all times. To them I say, good for you… and please don’t write me hateful comments. We all agree you’re better than us. For the other 99.9 percent of couples who, at the very least, have been roommates for many, many years and have the occasional healthy disagreement the way humans do, there is some hope at the end.
Understanding the complexities and nuances of the fighting words means you can shorten your arguments by simply using those 6 simple words but spite venom. It saves time and perhaps you can even have a good laugh about how predictably boring your disagreements are getting, however these will plunge your relationship to a dive of a century and before you know it, you are all done loving each other.
Of all the simple defensive words, I call this one the root of all evil. Once word is spitted out, it unleashes the other fighting words. A ‘nothing’ is always in response to simple questions like, ‘What’s wrong?’ And that’s the problem right there… you don’t know what’s wrong or you clearly don’t want to explain, the fight is already brewing. You know it. They know it. You’re both just waiting for the brave to actually ask the question. And everyone, even you, knows that ‘nothing’ universally means something. But what ‘nothing’ really means is this: ‘You know that I know that you know damn well what the matter is.’ At this point, you’re trapped. If you don’t know what’s the matter, well, you are an insensitive idiot. If you do know what’s the matter, chances are you caused it. Good luck with that.
When used as a question with a desperately irritated tone or at time sarcastically, ‘seriously?’ can make even the calmest of partners freak the hell out. You see, they were being serious. What you are actually saying is this: ‘You can’t possibly mean the thing you just said because it was so stupid and/or thoughtless that only a jackass would say it to me.’ But, that’s a mouthful. So, instead a wide-eyed ‘seriously??’ will escalate the argument quite nicely.
Ah ‘whatever’. It’s definitely a crowd favourite. Am I right? ‘Whatever’ has the ability to cut right through the already frayed nerves of your partner and quickly unravel years of built-up hostility. This is because it’s a totally dickish word used to marginalize the feelings of your partner, while simultaneously showing them your complete disregard for reaching a resolution. It’s too effective. And if you think a ‘whatever’ will end the argument, think again. I’ve never met a person strong enough to walk away from a ‘whatever.’ If you throw one out or get one thrown at you, be prepared. Shit is about to get real.
‘Fine’ shares the same dismissive properties as ‘whatever,’ but it is much more manipulative. It’s actually a mock capitulation. You are doing what is most crafty and, I won’t lie, most impressive in an argument. You are letting them have the last say on the topic without saying you agree. You are effectively saying: ‘You’re not right, but at this point I can’t stand the sound of your voice, so we are done here.’ Good stuff. And what it lacks in escalating the argument, it makes up for in years of simmering resentment.
- Chill, or ‘chill out.’
‘Don’t tell me to chill out’ should probably be on my tombstone. It’s my number-one trigger word. To tell someone who’s upset about anything, and I don’t care what it is, to ‘chill out’ is to take your life in your hands. Nothing — not ‘whatever,’ not ‘nevermind,’ not ‘seriously,’ not even ‘nothing’ can send your partner into a complete freakout like telling him or her to chill out. The only two appropriate responses to ‘chill out’ are ‘Don’t tell me what to do’ and/or ‘Bite me.’ Both responses are well-deserved, mind if one utters ‘chill out’ he or she should be prepared to, have known this was where it would end and probably start looking for an apartment.